After insertion, give a luxurious amount of time in becoming used to it. Let him worry about what to do, and you just pay attention to the warmth. Let him worry about what to do, and you just pay attention to the warmth and sensuality of it. Try masturbating, this is a regular part of intercourse, and may surprise you with its intensity.
The easiest thing to do is rotate your rear in a circular way, as he thrusts. A tricky and subtle thing is to learn how to squeeze your anus, tight and loose, to fondle his penis more and start vibrating, glowing ripples up and down your rectum. You’ll know if you’re moving in good ways, because you’ll feel a rhythmic flow inside and out. You’ll begin to forget where you are, as your movements melt into his ass.
Postillioning is inserting a finger(s) into the anus, and may include massaging it and the rectum. At its extreme, this can become fist fucking, which is insertion of the whole hand. I’ve already mentioned postillioning as a pleasant addition to the sex act, and also as a good preparation for anal intercourse. Here I’d like to explain in more detail how to do it, and things to watch out for.
The index or middle finger is best used, being long and strong. The finger must be well lubricated with spit or oil or lubricant (don’t use any thing with soap, as this will upset the rectal eco-system), and then placed at the anal opening. The outside can be caressed in circles and mild probes. This is usually a very warm experience and helps relax the area. Make insertion by pressing gently and firmly inwards, wobbling the tip of your finger a little as necessary. On the one hand, your finger won’t go in at all if the ass is as tight as it can be. On the other, if the anus is completely relaxed the finger will slide in with hardly any effort.
Postillioning is a great way to help someone explore their rear and learn to loosen the anus opening. Insertion is helped if the woman pushes lightly out as if going to the bathroom. You probably won’t find anything inside the rectum, and whatever you do find will be harmless. If you must have her absolutely clean inside she can douche with an enema bottle and warm water.
Once inside, you’ll feel the thick, strong, muscular ring which is the anus, and beyond it the soft sides of the rectum. Keep at least your fingertip beyond the anus, or contraction of the muscle will cause the finger to pop out again. Once your finger is inside, you can explore around, pushing it in as far as it’ll go, curling it around the anus, flicking it back and forth. If you insert two fingers you can push them apart inside as a way to stretch and loosen the anus. Just having the finger(s) positioned inside while sucking on her clit or fingering her pussy can be quite delightful. Sliding them up and down in her ass at orgasm can double or quadruple the intensity of the orgasm. When it’s time to finish, just pull the finger out gradually, pushing down towards the legs with the finger(s) while drawing the hand up towards the head.
Being postillioned is another way to open up to new experiences. You may be nervous at first, from the newness of it, it may not seem pleasurable at all. Since your anus/rectum is used to nothing but excrement inside, a finger may cause you to feel like going to the bathroom. This is to be expected at first, and will disappear as you relax and get used to it. It’s also easier if you’re sexually excited. Keep in mind that the finger can’t harm you unless it has a sharp nail or pokes violently.
It is also called “rimming” and it is another way to explore the rear end. It involves licking, tonguing, and sucking the anus. This might seem like a strange thing to do, because asses are supposed to be dirty and bad. Actually, they’re not. Although it’s possible to catch VD or hepatitis from an infected person, fears of rimming are mainly esthetic, that is, related to smell, taste, and personal preference. As with postillioning and anal intercourse, you can always douche beforehand, eliminating any odors.
Because the anus opening is so delicately sensitive, and the lips and tongue so warmly expressive, rimming is enjoyed by many people. It’s also an easy thing to do, in any position where the buttocks can be drawn far enough apart to admit the tongue.
Analingus is nice as part of Around the World, kissing and tonguing the body all over. You can lick across the anus in soft, wet strokes, or encircle it, going round and around languorously. You can flick the tongue-tip rapidly, or insert it inside as far as it’ll go, pushing and stroking back and forth. You can brush the lips gently over the spot, or suck hard on the anus, as if trying to draw it out. This is especially nice if combined with tongue insertion. If, while you’re being rimmed, you push down and relax the anus as if shitting, it will expand a little outwards, giving more area to caress and even nibble at.
It’s also nice to combine analingus with tonguing and sucking at her clit. In fact, the whole area between the legs, since it’s so protected, is soft and sensitive to touching and warmth.
Here’s one of the basic positions that you can use. Ladies, you need to kneel on your elbows and knees, relaxing your ass such that your body wants to take in your man’s erect penis. He kneels directly behind your ass, facing your way. He bends over you, guiding his lubricated penis to your anus opening, and then gently pushes it inside as you draw it in. Then he causes his penis to slide up and down inside by thrusting his hips back and forth, while you keep still or rotate your hips in a side-to-side motion. The advantages to this position are easy and fairly deep entry, and freedom of movement.
The full front position. The woman lies on her back, drawing her knees up to her chest and over the shoulders of the man, who presses down on her face to face. (a pillow can be put under the pelvis to raise it even higher, or the man can push the woman’s feet over her head). This position allows for easy penetration and very deep entry.
Another favorite position is a standing one, in which both the man and the woman stand up, facing the same way, and the woman bends over at the waist, using a wall, table, or other support. This can also be done on the knees rather than the feet, say, at the edge of the bed. When both partners are not of the same height at the waist, some adjustment will have to be made. This position is convenient to use outdoors. It allows easy penetration and full movement if there is something solid around to hang onto.
Try having the woman lie flat on her stomach (hips raised a little on a pillow if you like). This allows her to relax more and her hands are free to do whatever. The man lies on top and thus can also be more relaxed and have free hands. Penetration using this method is not as easy and you are not able to thrust as deeply. The woman is rather restricted in her movements using this position.
From the above position, both partners can roll over on their sides, still facing the same way, with one leg drawn up. This position allows bodily relaxation plus free hands to explore and caress. Entry is easy and fairly deep with this position. Movement is somewhat limited, though vigorous thrusting is still easy once you get used to the posture.
Another variation of the above position is to have both partners lying on their sides facing each other. Here the man must extend his pelvis between the woman’s bent legs. This position allows deep entry, and hands and mouths are free. Movement is fairly easy once insertion is made.
And last but not least, my personal favorite. This position is great in that it allows the woman to control the speed and depth of penetration. Have the man lay flat on his back on the bed, the woman then straddles him and slides her ass back to meet his hard penis. Penetration is easy in this position and entry can be deep. His hands are free to caress her breasts or even slide down to massage her clit while she slides up and down on his penis.
These are the basic positions. There are many other variations possible. Each is different and you may find that certain ones really work well for you and your partner but others don’t. Experiment with your partner to find what works best for you.
